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quick trick: how to eliminate bickering

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Do your kids bicker?how to eliminate bickering

About where they sit in the car. . . or who gets the last bowl of the ‘good’ cereal?

About who gets the first shower, the comfy seat in the living room, or the chance to talk to Nanny & Pap first?

About which show to watch, which person they get to ‘be’ for Just Dance 3, or which Barbie they get to play with?

Mine do.  And some days, my head feels like it’s going to explode by 6pm.

But this little Quick Trick has helped put an end to a lot–a LOT, not all, but A LOT–of the everyday bickering under out roof.  Along with other things, like our Gem Jars and Game Tickets, this makes up one piece of the ‘proactive parenting’ puzzle.

Here’s the skinny. . .

  • How to Eliminate Bickering– My Day, Your Day:  We started this years ago, when Maddy was 5, Owen was 3, and Cora was barely 2 years old, and we used it for a good long time.how to eliminate bickering

And we’ve just now brought it back, like a favorite pair of jeans, with Maddy being 8, Owen 6, and Cora 5.  And I’ve realized that we really needed it.

I’ll take anything I can get in this game:

As the kids get older, they naturally have more freedom; they have–and need–more room to move.  Which means more time to play together downstairs, out back, or in their rooms.  Which means mhow to eliminate bickeringore opportunity to bicker over little silly things.  Sure, we often jump in when we need to, to help them work through conflicts, struggles, and challenges.  But this lil baby makes things easier for us.

And I have faith that this simple, little Quick Trick will hopefully make this parenting gig a wee bit easier and reinforce for our kids the need for patience, turn-taking, and priority.

Do you have a Quick Trick–something that has saved your sanity on more than one occasion? Hold tight. I’m going to start asking the experts–YOU!–to share yours!

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  1. Stacey

    April 23, 2012 at 8:56 pm

    I can’t tell you how timely this is for us!! I have been going nuts. I can’t wait to introduce the girls to “My Day Your Day!” Thanks as always for a great idea!

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    • amy

      April 23, 2012 at 9:45 pm

      Stacey–YAY!! Hope it works for you, my friend–let me know how it goes, how you adapt it for your fam, and what the girls think!! HUGE thanks for reading and for taking the time to write, Stacey!!

      Reply
  2. Leticia- Tech Savvy Mama

    April 23, 2012 at 9:23 pm

    My mom used to do this for us! I was born on an even numbered day and my brother was born on an odd one so that’s how we determined which day was “ours!” It’s a great trick that we use too!

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    • amy

      April 23, 2012 at 9:38 pm

      Leticia–what a riot! Love it–hmmmm, two of my kids were born on the 9th and all three were born on odd numbered days. . . I wonder what that says about our family? 🙂

      Reply
  3. workout mommy

    April 23, 2012 at 9:37 pm

    love this, thanks! 🙂

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    • amy

      April 23, 2012 at 9:45 pm

      YAY!! Thank YOU for the feedback, for reading, and for taking the time to write, my friend!! Let me know if you use it and how it goes!!

      Reply
  4. amaebi519

    April 23, 2012 at 11:45 pm

    I do this in my classroom, too – I call it “Classroom Captain.” That student gets any responsibilities I need to assign (e.g. distributing handouts) but they are also the person other students need to ask when want to use one of the sensory tools (e.g. Swiss ball chairs) in our room, etc. Again, a great way to end bickering, and no one ever claims I’m being unfair or playing favourites. Because I post the list of the students’ names in alphabetical order, students can keep track of who is captain themselves. Love this trick!

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    • amy

      April 24, 2012 at 9:29 pm

      I LOVE the ‘Classroom Captain’ idea! Thanks so much for sharing a super way of adapting it for the classroom–awesome!!

      Reply
  5. [email protected] and Curious Kids!

    April 24, 2012 at 2:16 am

    great idea!

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    • amy

      April 24, 2012 at 9:28 pm

      thanks, Jen!!

      Reply
  6. Samm

    April 24, 2012 at 6:32 am

    Oh my….i thought my girls were the only ones to fuss over everything. Thank you for sharing this and other things, you have really helped me out on lots of things. God bless you and what you do.

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    • amy

      April 24, 2012 at 9:30 pm

      Samm–You are not alone, my friend. Thanks so much for your kind words–and know that we’re all in this together, learning as we go! Best to you!

      Reply
  7. Crystal

    April 24, 2012 at 9:29 am

    We have been doing a version of this for years. I have two kids and we do a schedule of weeks instead of days. Our problem was mainly who got to ride in a certain seat in the car. We tried alternating days but it became difficult because if we didn’t go anywhere on a certain day then we had arguing about “last time it was her turn, we didn’t go anywhere yesterday so it should be my turn today…”. I eliminated that fight by assigning weeks. One week is entirely my daughter’s, one week is entirely my son’s. It is easier for me to keep track of and stops the constant counting of “she got more time than I did”. We use this system for other things too, like if we are going out to dinner and they are arguing about which place we go, the kid of the week gets the choice. It really has silenced a ton of nit-picky arguments.

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    • amy

      April 24, 2012 at 9:31 pm

      Crystal. . . ahhhh, the perpetual seat-in-the-car argument. Great idea to assign weeks–I can see that would make things easier, too. I LOVE how through trial and error we figure out what works best for our own little crews. Thanks a ton for reading, and huge thanks for taking the time to write!!

      Reply
  8. Laura

    April 24, 2012 at 10:17 am

    My family did something similar just like this when I was growing up. Don’t know if my mom thought it up or if someone taught here, but we lived and made decisions by our day of the week. 😉 We didn’t rotate through like you because there were more children. There were six of us so we each were assigned a permanent day of the week. (Sunday was our parents’ day.)
    My day, since I was the first child, was Monday. Do you know that it is still my day? Even all these years later, my mom usually calls me on Mondays or thinks and prays especially for me on Mondays. 🙂

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    • amy

      April 24, 2012 at 9:33 pm

      Laura! I LOVE it!!! If I had 6 kids, you better believe I’d do the same. ANd what a riot that your parents gave themselves a day–and that you still consider Monday YOUR day!! It must be the same way I consider blue MY color, because growing up, everything I had was blue, and my three sisters had yellow, red, and green. I still associate them with those colors. . . and your mom calls each child on hid or her day??! I LOVE HER!!!

      Reply
  9. Brandy

    April 24, 2012 at 11:59 am

    How did you know we needed this? Have you been spying on us? Seriously, what a great idea! I can’t wait to try it out.

    However, I do have a concern. Do y’all use this only for when their is an argument or does that child automatically get to choose first on everything?

    For example, I have one that I know will want everything his way all day long. Which I don’t mind as long as he’s not doing it just so he can “rule” over the other two. I worry about it turning into that. And seriously, I even think that if I made the rule it was only for arguments, he might create arguments just to have his way.

    Any suggestions?

    Reply
    • amy

      April 25, 2012 at 11:57 am

      Oh, Brandy–I think we all need it, my friend. We use it for everything we can–that even means if I need a helper, if I need a hand with something, the person whose day it is comes first. So it’s good–and it’s also some more work. When they use it to exert power, we take a gem away from their gem jar and maybe we’ll ask them to do a little ‘extra’ help. . . like I said–and like you mention–not perfect…but it helps!! xoxo

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      • Brandy

        April 25, 2012 at 3:13 pm

        Thank you! This is what I needed to hear to make it work in my head!

        Reply
  10. Burnsy

    April 24, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    Ironically, my husband and I instigated a an odd day/even day for us because we struggled to be the one to make decisions. I’m a little stupified that I never thought to use this with my boys! How fabulous I love it! I think this will help split up some of the control struggles in the house as well as my oldest boy has a bit of a control issue and my younger son feels stepped on. The magic of this is that it falls on the calendar and not mamma picking and choosing which is always unfair to the person not getting their way! Thanks so much!

    Reply
    • amy

      April 25, 2012 at 6:30 am

      Yay!! You are so welcome–thank YOU for reading and taking the time to write, giving me this feedback. Please let me know how it goes!!!

      Reply
  11. Dawn

    March 8, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    LOVE-LOVE-LOVE the idea….how can I apply this for 12 kids?

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    • amy

      March 8, 2013 at 5:19 pm

      um. . . no clue. you have 12 kids, my friend, you may need a whole lot more help than I can give you. 🙂

      Reply
  12. Amanda Cook

    July 11, 2013 at 1:18 am

    Thanks for this, some of the simplest ideas are the greatest blessings. I just wish I had known about this for the last 8 years. Oh well, it will still get a lot of opportunities to work it’s magic.

    Reply
  13. Jill

    October 27, 2013 at 9:50 pm

    Seriously awesome! Whether it is who gets to sit where in the car or who gets to pray first at night, it is always an arguement. I love this. Your gem jars are my new fave, so we will be adding this to our calendar as well. Thank you so much! -Jill

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  14. Mommy King

    June 23, 2014 at 1:46 pm

    I am downloading calendars as we speak. I love this idea. My only issue is going to be the planning. I have 3 little girls with almost the same initials. lol! They are also pretty little (all under 5) so I might have to teach them their nic names first, then have a go at it!

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    • amy mascott

      June 23, 2014 at 5:31 pm

      HA!! let me know how it goes, my friend!!

      Reply
    • amy mascott

      June 23, 2014 at 5:31 pm

      well they can even each have a symbol or color for their day–my mom gave my sisters and me colors growing up: blue, yellow, red, and green. . . I STILL think ‘blue’ is MY color!

      Reply
  15. Sharon

    July 1, 2014 at 7:33 am

    This method has saved the peace in our house for years! My girls still use odd and even days as teenagers. The privileges (like what show to watch or who drives or who sits on what sofa) along with the chores (let the dog out, empty the trash) are on their day. We also have used a magnet system for emptying the dishwasher because it is not an everyday occurrence. Each girl has a magnet with their initials on it on the frig. If your magnet is on the left side next to the DW then its your turn to empty it. After emptying, switch the magnets.

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