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trying to keep smiling: quick trick, 1 2 3

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I found this Quick Trick via one of my “awesome–always-knows-what-she’s-doing-and-is-a-fantastic-parent” pals who threw it at me a few months ago after I was complaining and moaning that my kids weren’t listening to me anymore. Ever since then, my husband and I have used this technique with Maddy, Owen, and Cora at times when we:

a. need to immediately stop unacceptable behavior;

b. are just too tired, defeated, or frustrated to use the good ole Dr. Becky Bailey strategies; or

c. need to remind our kiddos that they’re the kids and we’re the parents (we’re so hardcore).

Here’s the quick and dirty:

  • 1, 2, 3 Magic: You use counting to deal with Stop (obnoxious or difficult–think arguing, fighting, whining, yelling, tantrums, etc.) behavior.
  • You put on an emotionless face when the behavior starts, and you count: That’s a one. (pause, and if it continues. . .) That’s two. (pause again, and if it’s still going on. . .) That’s three. Move to a time-out and cool down. (OR, Take 5. / Or, some other Time Out Alternative like losing toys, playtime, computer games, etc.)
  • Parents say nothing while counting. No negotiating, explaining, reasons, etc.

Here are some benefits of counting:

  • Easy to learn for parents and children.
  • More time for fun and love in the family.
  • Parents’ authority is not negotiable (and bargaining with little people is unnecessary and exhausting).
  • Punishment is short and sweet. We use a time-out (just sitting on a small carpet piece away from others) that corresponds with age–3 min for 3 years, 5 for 5 years, and I have a small egg timer to keep track. If the offender does not have a quiet, respectful time-out, then they’ve earned a double time-out. Oooooooohhhhhh.

It’s certainly not perfect, but we seem to have found a balance between Conscious Discipline , 1, 2, 3 Magic. and just being horrible, angry, constantly-yelling parents. . . for now, at least. FYI: The book is actually called 1, 2, 3 Magic by Dr. Thomas W. Phelan, and I’ve just found that their website is super-informative.

It’s worth checking out and giving a try–the book is very easy to read, hysterical in parts, and it answers every question you may have now or tomorrow, after you start. Happy counting!

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About amy mascott

teacher, mother, dreamer. lover of literacy, fun learning, good food, and three crazy-cool kids. finder of four-leaf clovers | dc metro ยท http://about.me/amymascott
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  1. Michele Horne

    April 3, 2009 at 11:00 pm

    We used this book when my first daughter was 3 and we reread it when my second daughter hit 3! We love it!

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  2. Heather

    April 5, 2009 at 1:31 am

    Great idea! Sounds like you have a really awesome friend ๐Ÿ™‚

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