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new for us friday: when talking to kids about cancer

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This New For Us Friday I’m sharing a little something new to me and a little something new for all of the Yahoo! Mother Board Members: Yahoo! Shine and our October blog topic, Breast Cancer Awareness.

Shine is a place where women can find the latest information and advice from experts and the Yahoo! community on parenting, health, fashion, healthy living, and almost any other topic of interest to women. Shine has been around for a bit now, but what’s new is the way that the Yahoo Mother Board is working with Shine–we’ve got our own Yahoo! Mother Board page.

In honor and recognition of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, several of us wrote about the topic, and our posts are shared on the site. Because I personally think the topic is just that important, my post (written originally on teach mama blog on shine) has been re-posted below:

Talking to Kids About Cancer–5 Things to Keep in Mind

  • How much does a 5 year-old–or a 15 year-old–need to know about a family member’s diagnosis?
  • Should you bare all of the facts or try to gloss over cancer information with children?
  • Is it better to wait or share information immediately?
  • Does it really matter if a child knows the truth about a diagnosis or not?
  • Exactly what words, phrases, or terms are best to use with children?

Although it’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month, breast cancer is a disease that deserves more than just one month of “special” pink, star-studded attention. Too many of my friends and family members have been affected by breast cancer–spirits ravished, bodies destroyed, families forever changed–that it’s high time to put some serious money into research, research into practice, and practice into finding treatments that will ultimately lead to a cure. Until then, many, many children will be touched by breast cancer–and cancer in every other form.

So how do we talk to kids about cancer? What are the best ways of approaching a subject that for years was brushed aside, not even spoken out loud, and still carries with it such uncertainty and fear that many adults don’t know how to handle it themselves? There’s certainly no ‘correct’ way, but I’ve done a lot of reading and research which brought me to five general guidelines.

Here are 5 things to keep in mind when talking to kids about cancer:

1. A child’s age will determine exactly how much information to share and how much they will understand. Little ones, 3-5 years old, are able to handle only a fraction of the information that a teenager can, so especially if there are mixed ages of children in a family, age must be a consideration when sharing news about a cancer diagnosis. That means that time needs to be set aside for each individual child to talk with an adult about a diagnosis so to attend to each child’s cognitive ability is taken into consideration.

2. Kids need to know the facts. No matter what age, children should be told four things: 1. the name of the cancer; 2. the part of the body that is affected; 3. how the cancer will be treated; 4. how their lives will be affected. They need to be kept up to date with age-appropriate information throughout the course of treatment.

3. The language we use carries a ton of weight. Only using the word ‘sick’ might make children think that they can catch cancer, that it is contagious. For this reason, it is important to use the words ‘disease’ and ‘cancer’ along with whatever other words your child can handle from the American Cancer Society’s list of words to describe cancer and its treatment.

4. Children need constant support and time for processing. Kids need to know that the cancer is not their fault and that they are in no way responsible for a loved one getting cancer. They need to know that they will be taken care of during this challenging time and always. Repeat these facts with clarity and with frequency. And understanding that the way kiddos process heavy information like this may manifest itself in acting out, isolation, or just unusual behavior, so adults need to be aware.

5. There’s a wealth of information out there–find it and use it. More detailed guides for parents are available, and many are incredibly well designed. Books, coloring pages, pamphlets, and websites can help cancer become a familiar topic in your family (with the understanding that everything need to be done in moderation). Local support groups, school counselors, and trained social service professionals are ready and willing to provide families with connections to the resources they need, so there’s no reason to walk this uncertain road alone.

I’ve read dozens of documents over the past few weeks trying to gather information for this post. Many thanks to the following sites for providing me with the majority of resources:

  • American Cancer Society: Helping children when a family member has cancer–dealing with diagnosis
  • Cancercare.org: Talking to your kids about your diagnosis
  • University of Michigan: Talking with kids about a loved one’s cancer
  • NYU Cancer Institute: Straight talk to kids–how to talk to kids about cancer
  • Caring4Cancer: Talking with children and grandchildren about cancer

And thank you to author Neyal Ammary-Risch for allowing me to use an image from her text, In Mommy’s Garden, a fantastic book on talking to children about cancer, for this post.

fyi: I found inspiration for this post from several of my close friends currently battling breast cancer. In particular, I thank my good friend Susan who is one of the most amazing, talented, intelligent women I know and who is currently undergoing treatment for inflammatory breast cancer. Thank you, Susan and many others, for being models of strength and beauty during your most difficult times.

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  1. Elle Belles Bows

    October 23, 2010 at 4:48 pm

    Great post! It is sad that so many of us need to have this talk in our families. Thanks for giving ideas to make it easier. I will definitely pass it along to friends! Kerri

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  2. Anonymous

    October 24, 2010 at 10:03 pm

    Thanks for this post. Unfortunately, Cancer is a part of our lives and a part of many conversations we are having with our 4 yo. I appreciate any good-hearted info!ca

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  3. toddlerplanet

    October 27, 2010 at 1:12 pm

    I thought this was awesome! I'm posting a link to this one and the one on Shine on Thursday.

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  4. Melissa Taylor

    October 28, 2010 at 4:58 pm

    I wrote an article inspired by my friend on how to support a mom friend with cancer – it's on Babble here: http://www.babble.com/mom/health-fitness/breast-cancer-awareness-support-mothers-with-cancer/
    More than anything, it's so important to take care of those kiddos! Then the mom can focus on herself and her recovery.

    Thanks for this post!

    Meliss

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